I flashed on the day we were checking the pictures of my parents’ wedding, and my dad gasconaded that he ordered his suit from abroad. I wouldn’t know which of the ‘abroad’ it was anyway, I didn’t remember to ask. But I recalled that we asked him, ‘so, where is the designer suit now?’
Reflecting on the sweet past can be sweet, and it’s all part of our story, but the beauty of life is in the latter than the former.
Many times we feel better thinking someone is the reason we have not marched forward, when we have kept our gaze on the past.
The past is not meant to last beyond the past. Either it is a good past or a terrible past, you can’t keep focusing on the past and expect to march past the past. Every time you keep looking at the past, your feet will keep going back.
The best in the past are lessons that you have learnt and your capacity that it has enlarged.
No one is an empty book without a past, except for a new child. The past is part of life as life is in three phases: the past, present and future.
He who keep seeing yesterday, will keep dreaming yesterday and end up living nothing better than yesterday.
No matter how sweet yesterday was, the latter is always meant to be greater than the former.
That you had a terrible past does not make you a terrible person. That you’ve tried your best in the past does not mean your best cannot work in the present. That he jilted you in the past does not mean someone else cannot love you in the present. That you’ve aborted in the past does not mean you can no longer bring forth fresh fruits in the present.
I have also aborted several dreams, plans and desires unknown to me. I tried all I can to keep them, but my womb wouldn’t just carry them for nine months. Yet, the same womb has conceived and brought forth other dreams.
That you trusted someone in the past and built your hopes around him, but he dashed it does not mean you should stop trusting.
I have once built my dreams around a man, but I woke to see him at the exit door. I slept again, dreamt again and woke again to embrace the freshness that lies in the present.
Who says because you were this and that in the past, you can’t become all you want to be in the present?
Even if the past has stolen the precious seasons of your life, who told you the days you’ve got left is not enough to rewrite your story.
Even if you have missed out of some opportunities in the past, don’t say opportunity knocks but once; I bet that is not totally true. An opportunity might come once, but opportunity is a noun that has singular and plural form. It is not only an opportunity that will come your way in life, there are opportunities in the past, present and future. Even if you have maximized the ones in the past, there are better ones in the present. Even if you have missed out of the ones in the past, there are still better ones in the present.
Don’t stay there wallowing in regret of a lost opportunity, just be sure you don’t lose the next one.
Yes, your past achievements are enormous, I’ll give you a standing ovation if you want, but we are getting tired of the story of, ‘when I used to….’
Stop looking back, let go of the past, retain the lessons, remember the victories, but don’t remain in the past.
Forgive the past; forgive them, forgive yourself. Forget the past; forget your mistakes, forget their misdeed.
It’s time to march forward, no longer backward.